Why positive anchoring is good for you and why I am a fan of Vans.

Shoes: Vans, Trousers: Jacqueline Young, Top: H&M, Jacket: Tally Weijl (this season)

“Love anchors the soul”

I’m a huge fan of Vans. Not because they are very comfortable and go well with many of my outfits, but because I always wear them when I am on holidays. You can imagine that I’m already in a good mood by just putting them on. They function like an anchor for me (and this is not a sailing term!).

Anchoring is something we all use in our lives, simply because there is too much information for our brain to process.  In order to deal with that huge amount of information we delete, distort and generalise information, such that it suits us and our vision on the world.

Anchoring falls into that last category, generalisation. It means that when you see, hear, feel, smell or taste something that you have previously linked to certain actions or feelings, you react on that specific signal instantly. Take stopping for a red traffic light for instance. You see a red light and you instantly stop. Imagine you would think every time you drive your car: “Hey, that traffic light is red, what shall I do?” There is a direct link between seeing the light and your action. In the case of my Vans, I feel happy the moment I put them on, since I have worn them on so many happy occasions. There is a direct link between putting on my Vans and my good mood.

You can make use of this function of the brain in your communication. Teachers often do so and also for non-teachers it is very useful. Read on to find out why and how.

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Blogpost 100! Missed some of these 100? Here is an inspiring top 5 for you!

Skirt: Esprit, Top: Tally Weijl, Bag: H&M, Sunnies: Vögele (all previous seasons)

“Time and reflection change the sight little by little ’till we come to understand.”

– Paul Cezanne

Time flies as we all know. My statistics have shown me that today’s blogpost is number 100! Hard to believe that I have written 100 blogposts in 2 years. It was a good reason to look through some old ones and I love seeing how my blog has developed during this period and also how creative yet consistent I have been.

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A pre-loved pink jumper for Valentine’s Day

Pink jumper: Bijenkorf Collection, Trousers: H&M, Belt: Escada Sport, Boots: Chico(new)

“Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own.”

-H. Jackson Brown Jr.

Wearing a pre-loved pink jumper on an old pair of beautiful black trousers on a sunny Saturday (look at my eyes…). I have chosen to wear this romantic outfit for Valentine’s Day too, since I knew I would spent quite a bit of time in my kitchen. With this outfit I could be a kitchen princess and get “date night” right as well.

Remember the 5 love languages from previous blog posts? You may have gotten the impression that I am quite impressed by them. Well, you’re right. I am! Keeping them in mind and knowing my family’s love for Italian food, I decided to spoil my loved ones with a romantic red dinner; prosecco with red ice cubes, tomato soup, pasta pollo with red pesto and a gelato dessert with strawberries followed by coffee and chocolate.

Read on to find out how this dinner included all 5 love languages and to enjoy some more pretty pink pictures.

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A picture is worth a thousand words

“Enjoy the butterflies of winter. Each as unique and amazing as you!”

-unknown

Since pictures sometimes speak louder than words, a blogpost with lots of photos and few words.

Wel…that was the plan. Honestly! Truth is that I just like writing too much to go for photos only. I will still show you a lot of snowy photos this week and use the opportunity to tell you why pictures often speak louder than words and how you can use that knowledge.

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A try-out using accessories and using the word “try”

Jumper: Street One, Trousers: Tally Weijl, Boots: Unisa, Accessories: unknown (al items are pretty old…)

“Saying I’ll try really means I am not really committed.”

– Robin S. Sharma

In this blogpost I show you how I tried out 3 different accessories with the same jumper. Mind you: try out. That is something else than “try”. “Try out” means experimenting and drawing conclusions from it, whereas “try” means….yeah, what message does the word “try” actually bring across? Read on to find out…

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New Year: a new sweater & new year’s resolutions

Coat: Yes or No, Skirt: Esprit: Boots: Stravers Shoes, Sweater: H&M (new)

“What the New Year brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the New Year.”

– Vern McLellan

In my case it is this new sweater to start with…I use it in this week’s blogpost as a way to explain why you should stick to only one New Year’s Resolution. The one that matters to you. The one that makes a difference. The one that will determine what the New Year brings to you.

I will also show you three different ways to style it, since all good things come in threes!  

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What’s in a name? 5 tips to learn and remember names!

The name Macbeth is associated with blood and drama!

What’s in a name?

I am sure you are familiar with the above quote. It’s from the famous Shakespeare Play “Romeo & Juliet”. To give you an answer to that question: there is a lot in someone’s name! Actually, you can say that our name is the most important word in our vocabulary. Just think about what you feel when your name is misspelled, mispronounced or even worst: forgotten! Because a name means so much to each of us, it is a good thing to remember and use other people’s names. That is true for teachers with regard to pupils’ names, but it is equally true for almost every profession and for almost everyday encounters with others. I will tell you why exactly and, because knowing and using names is so important, I will also provide five tips so you can better learn and remember names.

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What do you see?

Dress: H&M, Shoes: Vans, Sunglasses: Cerjo (all previous seasons). More photos here

If you follow me on instagram you are most probably interested in what you see on the photos. Yet……..what exactly do you see? Look at the above photo. Do you see a 40+ woman? A small woman? An English teacher? A woman who likes travelling?

The funny thing is that I post one photo and then there are so many different views, feelings, thoughts and so on people can have when looking at it. When you realise that there are always different perspectives, you will enable yourself to see situations from different angles and that has got some advantages. Let me explain in more detail!

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A smart start

Dress & Top: H&M, Shoes: Moda di Fausto (all previous seasons)

Forget all your New Year’s Resolutions: spring is the perfect time for new beginnings. Trees are starting to blossom, you can hear the birds singing, yummy chocolate eggs can be bought again and and the sun is rising earlier every morning. So, time for a fresh beginning indeed. I have chosen to look very smart at the start of spring. It’s a dress I like best with a pair of high heels, so I only wear it outside the classroom. It would also be too much of a challenge to cycle to school in this one…

I have combined it with a warm white top. It’s warm in two ways: a warm colour white and some pretty warm material, so perfect for the lower temperatures we are having just now. I love wearing jumpers and tops that protect my throat, since my voice is what I need to do my job. Classy and chic as the dress is, it has got a hidden casual detail: pockets!

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