Jumper: Street One, Trousers: Tally Weijl, Boots: Unisa, Accessories: unknown (al items are pretty old…)
“Saying I’ll try really means I am not really committed.”
– Robin S. Sharma
In this blogpost I show you how I tried out 3 different accessories with the same jumper. Mind you: try out. That is something else than “try”. “Try out” means experimenting and drawing conclusions from it, whereas “try” means….yeah, what message does the word “try” actually bring across? Read on to find out…
A try-out with accessories
Let’s start with the try-out using different accessories with the same outfit.
With a scarf given to me by a friend after she had read my blogpost about the wild animal print.
With a necklace that has got the same brown-grey colour scheme as the outfit.
With a rather large scarf, combining the colours of my outfit and adding both romance and volume to the look. By the way, have you noticed how well my hair fits the colour scheme too? That’s another try-out!
Try is different from try-out
Now let’s move on from try-out to try.
“Try” is a word I hardly use in my lessons. You know why? Well, ”try” means that you do not have to do it. If I’d tell you to try to say (loud or just in your head) the number of photos you have seen in this blogpost so far and you say…well, come on, try! Try to say how many photos have you seen so far…
When you have said or thought any number by now, you haven’t tried. You have done it!
“Try” means that you just have to start with it and that you do not have to pull through, because if you would do that, you wouldn’t have tried, you would have done.
This is photo number 6 by the way! (Just teasing you a bit here)
Imagine that I would tell my pupils to “try” to do an exercise. All they actually have to do is stare at it and they’re done. They have tried. So, I always tell my pupils to do an exercise and if they come across challenges, that they can ask a classmate or me for help so they can finish the task.
Image yourself asking a friend if she can help you with something and the answer is: “I’ll try my best”. It sounds great, doesn’t it, especially with the words “my best” added at the end. To be honest with you, despite this positive and strong sounding end, the message is actually something like “no, not really”, wrapped up in a reply that sounds really convincing.
A try-out with try
Now think about a situation in which you (would) use the word “try” . Decide for yourself what your real reaction is. Are you willing to go for it or is it actually a “no” that you are telling yourself or others?
When you force yourself to rephrase “try”, it will show you your real intentions. A small change in your communication and an interesting one to try out, to experiment with and to draw your own conclusions. Simply skip the word “try” from your vocabulary for a while and see what happens. I bet it’s going to be interesting!
Talking about interesting. When you want to read more about how small words can have a huge effect on your communication, you can read my blogpost about “but“, the one about “not” and the one about “yet” by simply clicking on each link.
I would love to read about your experiences with the word “try” in the comments section below! And when you prefer to tell me what accessories you like best with my chocolate brown jumper, you can use the comments section below as well!
Thank you for reading and enjoy your try-out!